bluebirds and lemondrops

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Perfectionism is another confidence killer. Study after study confirms that it is largely a female issue, one that extends through women’s entire lives. We don’t answer questions until we are totally sure of the answer, we don’t submit a report until we’ve edited it ad nauseam, and we don’t sign up for that triathlon unless we know we are faster and fitter than is required. We watch our male colleagues take risks, while we hold back until we’re sure we are perfectly ready and perfectly qualified. We fixate on our performance at home, at school, at work, at yoga class, even on vacation. We obsess as mothers, as wives, as sisters, as friends, as cooks, as athletes. Bob Sullivan and Hugh Thompson, the authors of The Plateau Effect, call this tendency the “enemy of the good,” leading as it does to hours of wasted time. The irony is that striving to be perfect actually keeps us from getting much of anything done.
Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Gap - The Atlantic

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almost bought this dress in blue last weekend for back to the future secret cinema. it’s good, but not quite perfect. this weekend: vintage shopping. huzzah!

almost bought this dress in blue last weekend for back to the future secret cinema. it’s good, but not quite perfect. this weekend: vintage shopping. huzzah!